Society is messed
up. We are all so superficial, we worry less about what our family thinks of us
and more about what our “friends” think. We will spend our time finding trends
to follow and things that we “can’t live without”, taking compromising ‘selfies’
and making sure we constantly look our best, rather than investing our time in
worthwhile things like spending time with our family and building lasting
relationships. As a generation we tend to believe that the respect of our peers
and strangers is more important than the respect of our families and teachers.
Everybody wants to
be popular, but the word has lost its true meaning. In reference to a person it
means “generally liked and admired”. Think about the 'popular' people in your
school or workplace. They aren’t the kind, funny and smart people that you
would think might be “generally liked and admired”, they are the beautiful,
superficial people who push people down to raise their social status. People
don’t like them; they want to be
liked by them.
If society is a mountain, those people are at the top. There are
people all the way up the mountain trying to reach the summit. Think about
where you are on that mountain. Are you trying to get to the top? Or are you
comfortable with where you are and you’re just chilling?
Sometimes the kings and queens who reside on the top of the mountain will throw
a rope down, this could be a remark like “Isn’t that girl so ugly? She totally
needs to lose weight.” Or a question like “How far have you gone with a girl?”
some people will jump right on the rope in the hope of being hauled up the
mountain a little, even if they have to shove their friends out of the way.
This is what is truly sad about society. Most people are so desperate for
popularity, even the ones who say they don’t care, that they will drop
everything to get there, even their only friends.
Another way of looking at it is that the popular people are in
this bubble and everyone else is outside it. Some people don’t even notice the
bubble, they don’t see the popular people as being superior; some people notice
the bubble but are indifferent, they just go on with their lives; and some
people are constantly trying to get into the bubble, much to the annoyance of
those within.
What these desperate people don’t see is what hard work being popular is, once you are accepted it's like running on a
never ending treadmill trying to catch up, shoving everyone else out of the way
and never really truly being yourself. Sounds great, huh?
Sometimes it feels
like you are being shunned by the world, but if it feels like that, you are
surrounding yourself with the wrong people. Make sure you are surrounding
yourself with people as opposed to
ideals and high standards. You need to make your own standards; they are the
only ones you can live up to while still being yourself.
Do little things to build up the big things: call your friend, play cards with
your brother, help your mom make dinner. These are the things that will still
matter in ten years’ time, whether you were ‘popular’ in school won’t. When
you're on your death bed what will you want, your diploma and your sports car
or your family and your loved ones? If you spend too much time worrying about
the superficial things in life you’ll lose the important things. Smile. Be
positive. Being on the outside is okay, in fact, being on the outside is the
best place to be.